it is not easy to be a married man, this is too expensive, there must be negotiation

This list is not a true picture of the ibo tradition, d umuada list normally do not include wrapper and blouses d only tin dey ask for most times are rice, tomato, onion groundnut oil n may be 10 or 20k.

when i had mine there was nothing like gold necklaces, no wrapper. but on ur own both of u can decide on the kind of wrappers to get for ur mum i.e d brides mum, because u ve to buy her wrappers. some mothers dont give list but some do, but if d mum gives a list, u ve to get her what she asked for, but if she doesnt u still ve to buy her good georges/hollandis/nigerian wax e.tc. depending on ur financial strenght.

For d bride price it fully depends on the family some people collect as low as 20 naira n some dont even collect at all.

from my own view the list up here is painting a bad picture of ibos our parents n family members are not wicked people.

N d whole list tin is majorly practised in Abia n Imo state. Anambra n Enugu are not sooooo much into d list tin.

No offence am from Abia state.

yeah rite Lillian...please get real, on my bros. wedding day it was worse jare; i almost swore i'd hate her n her pple after dey almost drilled my bro. well tnk God he was smart, when they showed him the list he bought the all(more than wot namywedding even has on their site) and on the wedding day they said 2 snails were missing (wot if they both crawled away to safety ...LMAO).

no offence too am from imo(dat birth abia).

For me i think the ibo's list is crazy (overkilling), ibibio list no reach abeg and the most expensive place is "MBAISE" quite annoying (they judge with height, color,shool,location(if the groom is from Abuja or yankee-more money} *hiss*

alls good sha hope we see guys ready to go through all dis.
ami o.

@Joy , i am aware of the MBAISE issue. but am telling u 4rm experience cos am married n i saw d list dat was given to my husband it wasnt dis bad but it was much shaaaaaaa.

any way i pray God ll give u a nice man that ll stand for love n fulfil wateva right.

talking about comparison i dont know which is higher.

i think the issue of list has to do with family and units.During my sister's own they gave list but nt any where near what we have in that una list. infact for the list of bride's parents my parents didnt collect anything and my dad ppressed the umunna to be realistic or else they go with notin! during my cousin's own she told her mum and my dad to accept whatever her husband brings cos she will marry him come rain or sun,and the yeye umunna did accept him.
if u allow those umunna they ruin everything for you. Am from abia state.

not all ibo list re like dis......u guys re scaring guys away.

na wa o u can imagine 25 loaves of bread,Nigerian wax, gold wristwatches diff colours n types, the bride is not being sold out she still remains deir daughter and even if most of d things listed out is not true, durin omungwo d moda inlaw goes to visit her son n expect d lady dat just gav birth to cook for her igbo's learn from d efik.

In support of what lisa has said, it all depends on the girl's parents. The girl's father often acts as an intermediary between the in-laws and his umunna. I am Ibo and from Mbaise and I have never seen where Wrappers and Blouses, Jewelry, Head ties and Shoes,Hand bags and wrist watches are give to each "Nwa-ada".

The item on the general list depends on how the brides's father can influence the umunna to accept less.

And @ joy Joy; Mbaise people do not write a list based on height, colour or anything.

I have been opportuned to witness different traditional marriages in my place and can say that the list differs from village to village and amongst families.

My cousin who's parents attend deeper life bible church got married recently and there was no single alcohol on the list. The drinks requested for were 5 crates of malt and 2 crates of soft drinks. Although this came with alot of complaints and rejection from by the umunna but her father stood his ground and compensated them with extra N10,000. This shows how influential the father of the bride can be.

But I understand that some of them can be greedy or not wanting to be outdone.

A friend who hails from Umuahia recently told me how his brother had to build a house for his wife's family (amongst other things) before they could give her away. The marriage was postponed for almost 2 years because the wouldn't bulge until the guy finished building the house. Until today, the lady never allows any of her people set foot in their house, she didn't even allow her mother cme when she put to bed!

I am very sure there is no building of house on the Umuahia marriage list. This goes to stress the extent the bride's immediate family can influece the marriage list for good or for bad.

I think Ibibio is more expensive, also on the traditional wedding day the groom has to give little gifts like money and wine to the family women who are bringing out his bride, if not they will keep bringing out fake brides until they are satisfied with his gifts.
The Ibibios believe that their women are the best world wide(guess beautiful, best cooks, and best home care givers etc) , so the men marrying them have to prove that they're capable of taking care of their wife's financially and even physically as a fitness test is conducted during the marriage ceremony. So when the groom finally marries the bride, he feel like he's gotten a rare gem realizing how uneasy the process was.
Majority of the grooms don't mind because the value of their bride is worth more.

@ JoyJoy, i am from MBAISE, with wonderful certificates. ULTRA MODERN SUPERMARKET AND HERBALIST SHOP was d name i gave d list my kinsmen(Amala)gave 2 my husband,but he did not bring even half. It all depend on your family,you d bride and the man in question. As long as d man is not complaining nobody should.
I guess from ur xperience with my ppl u will never allow anybody close 2 u 2 even date an MBAISE lady. Life is not like dat. One family may b gd n d other bad. As long as d girl in question is worth d stree i think no fuss. Mbaise women make great wives n wonderful mums home n abroad. They are beautiful,great cooks,wonderful lovers,tender caregivers, faithful,manage ur finance n pray 4 u.An MBAISE woman is ready 2 drink garry with her husband and form dat she had d best meal in d world................ . Any man who God bless with such wife will pay anything 2 have her.

Sweet JoyJoy, this long endless list is often negotiatable.No parent is willing 2 sale/trade their daughter or her love n happiness for money........Amen.

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