Don’t give up on your marriage…

Couples all over the globe needlessly give up on their marriages every year. If they knew what to do to open the lines of communication and talk to their partners, they could save themselves a lot of stress, heartache and regret!
The day you married, the idea that you’d feel the way you’re feeling right now wasn’t even a consideration for you.  Something went off track in the course of the relationship and it’s easy to walk away and just give up.  But the reality is that you can save your marriage and rebuild an amazing connection.  You can actually have the relationship you want, even if your partner doesn’t want to.
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Ways to help you save your marriage –

Breaking Your Promises and Being an Undependable Spouse
Who wants to live with someone who can't be depended on? The more promises you break, the more you say you will do something and then don't, the more you are late or not where you say you will be, the more your spouse will lose trust in you.
 
Being {too}Jealous
Its okay to get jealous once in a while but, one of the sure ways to drive your spouse away and to destroy your marriage is to show irrational jealousy or to spy on your spouse. If you can't admit to your jealous behavior or change your behavior, seek counseling.

Inability or Not Wanting to Forgive/Forget
Resentment over past hurts or betrayals will slowly eat away at your spouse's love for you and doom your marriage. Not forgiving your spouse also harms your own health. Forgiving doesn't mean you forget or that you condone hurtful behavior. Don't let your stubborness or wanting to get revenge cause the end of your marriage.

Putting Romance on the Back Burner
Although your lifestyle situation changes throughout the years, your need for love and affection does not lessen. Talk about your expectations about affection, sex, and romance. Telling yourself that "someday" you will have the time to be romantic will hurt your marriage.

Continuing to Have Unrealistic Expectations
Disillusionment will grow as your expectations continue to be unfulfilled. Once you identify which expectations are based on marriage myths and are unrealistic, talk with one another about having achievable expectations.

Refusing to Listen to or Communicate With Your Spouse{about the most important}
Shutting your spouse out of your life by refusing to talk or to listen is a definite death knell for your marriage. It is so important for you both to share your thoughts and feelings with one another.
Communication is very important. If possible you must try to start a conversation, by sitting down to talk without playing the blame game. Try not to assault one another; respect the different points of views; do not defend yourselves when you are feeling attacked, it is best to sit back and allow the feeling to come out without judging and also without feeling insulted or hurt.
Try to look for a mutual understanding where you are able to forge a brand-new relationship. In case you can both acknowledge that there are facets of the marriage worth saving, then this will certainly be a starting point.

Being Unkind or Uncaring Towards Your Spouse
When a lack of caring and kindness or when selfishness creeps into your marriage, the slippery slope to divorce begins. Is it really all that difficult to say "please" or "thank you" to your spouse? Just because the two of you are married doesn't mean you shouldn't be courteous to one another.

Retreats for married couple
These can be arranged or organized by you, but basically this will be an opportunity to get away for a weekend or one week with your partner in an environment without other family members, children and work. The simple act of spending some quality time as a couple is at times enough to look at things from different perspective and also rekindle your relationship. This is an opportunity to talk freely with each other, enjoy each other’s company without any interruptions and to genuinely explore all the things which might be causing the problems.
For this, you can rent a holiday home or cottage for several days or make arrangements to attend certain group sessions; get help from councillors and naturally schedule exclusive time together.
It’s never recommended to hang about until divorce is the only option before attempting to save your marriage. A marital retreat is generally enough to add some spark to your relationship whether or not it’s failing.
Thanks for reading, hopefully this article has given you some advice on how to save a marriage.

This article is a revised thought from the book - 'Save My Marriage Today' - author, Amy Waterman, has great techniques that will help you to do just that.  Her step by step process will help you to work through and resolve conflicts, to increase your self-esteem and re-ignite the passion that you both once felt.