SO CONFUSED, PLEASE HELP

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My good friends, I would be pleased if you exercise your patience to read this my story and give me suggestions, it is said that the voice of many is the voice of God and that many good heads are better than one.
I met Ngozi when I was 18, in SS 3. She was my first and I love her so much, she was 16, in SS 2. We were both tender and do not know much about sex and its implications. We makes love and she enjoys that so much. I gain admission into university a year after my secondary school and I encourage her to study hard to gain admission as well, I helped took her waec and jamb for her and she got admission in Ebonyi state university whereas am in university of Nigeria Enugu campus.
In her first year she got pregnant for me and she suggest abortion which I told her to think of its implications, I also suggest I tell my mum, she shouted at me to get rid of the non sense I pour into her. Well after that she had abortion and our relationship continued for a while then she called me and told me that she doesn’t want to be getting pregnant often that we should separate after counting how many times she had missed her period.
Since then I did not hear from her for about 7 years only to hear she did a big wedding with 64 years old man who had divorced twice from USA, last year she call me from USA and explain that her mum forced her into marring and that the man is 36 years older than her that she doesn’t want the marriage any longer..then we started talking again, she provoked the man they had quarrel and went to court and the divorce favored her. The court told the man to be paying her fees till she graduate, she studied nursing.
We agree to marry, but I started seeing some character of her which am not comfortable with, like sending massages carelessly, and when I asked her for her pictures she sent old picture which she took when she was in Nigeria.
The worst of it is that she insist that our marriage will be arranged immediately she come this xmass, and that will not give me any opportunity to study her current character.
So dear friends, doesn’t this kind of marriage have skeleton in the cardboard? Am afraid of travelling to USA and lose my job here in Nigeria, Am afraid if she maltreat me over their. Am afraid if she is not able to get pregnant because of the abortion hence she’d stay with the man for years without pregnancy, and she wanted pregnancy to enable her claim much of the man’s wealth.
Please talk to me am about to call this marriage off.
My good friends, I would be pleased if you exercise your patience to read this my story and give me suggestions, it is said that the voice of many is the voice of God and that many good heads are better than one.
I met Ngozi when I was 18, in SS 3. She was my first and I love her so much, she was 16, in SS 2. We were both tender and do not know much about sex and its implications. We makes love and she enjoys that so much. I gain admission into university a year after my secondary school and I encourage her to study hard to gain admission as well, I helped took her waec and jamb for her and she got admission in Ebonyi state university whereas am in university of Nigeria Enugu campus.
In her first year she got pregnant for me and she suggest abortion which I told her to think of its implications, I also suggest I tell my mum, she shouted at me to get rid of the non sense I pour into her. Well after that she had abortion and our relationship continued for a while then she called me and told me that she doesn’t want to be getting pregnant often that we should separate after counting how many times she had missed her period.
Since then I did not hear from her for about 7 years only to hear she did a big wedding with 64 years old man who had divorced twice from USA, last year she call me from USA and explain that her mum forced her into marring and that the man is 36 years older than her that she doesn’t want the marriage any longer..then we started talking again, she provoked the man they had quarrel and went to court and the divorce favored her. The court told the man to be paying her fees till she graduate, she studied nursing.
We agree to marry, but I started seeing some character of her which am not comfortable with, like sending massages carelessly, and when I asked her for her pictures she sent old picture which she took when she was in Nigeria.
The worst of it is that she insist that our marriage will be arranged immediately she come this xmass, and that will not give me any opportunity to study her current character.
So dear friends, doesn’t this kind of marriage have skeleton in the cardboard? Am afraid of travelling to USA and lose my job here in Nigeria, Am afraid if she maltreat me over their. Am afraid if she is not able to get pregnant because of the abortion hence she’d stay with the man for years without pregnancy, and she wanted pregnancy to enable her claim much of the man’s wealth.
Please talk to me am about to call this marriage off.

asked 7 months ago by okey - 32
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shes not a good person, walk away and save yourself the stress.

answered 7 months ago by ISpeakTheTruth - 911
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......go as far as u can 4rm her......

answered 7 months ago by sephia - 478
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Dude you have posted this question two times before and you made the same mistake of copying and pasting the question twice. abi ddnt you read and edit before you posted this?

Like all the other poeple who answered you the first two times you asked said, LEAVE THE GIRL AND FIND SOMEONE WHO IS NOT OUT TO USE YOU! shikena!

answered 7 months ago by IB - 222
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*ROLLING ON THE MAIN ROAD LAFFING MY EYES RED*....LOL
ARE YOU FOR REAL...
wotelse dyu wnt us to tell u... ok pray??? #hisssssssss
waka now.com joor o
lol... u'l be fyine aite.

answered 7 months ago by Joy Joy - 1,474
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Please stay away from her. I think she's just trying to use you.....

answered 7 months ago by NJ - 53
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