i wonder y u wld want 2 be a second wife to a man when you can be the first and only wife to another man. if you are a christian then you shld know that God frowns at polygamy...i advice u stay away from him...

dis is ur question is really very annoying.this is one of the reasons why i say women are their own worst enemies.at 20 u cant tink of anytin beta 2 do wit ur lyf,r u rily 20???walk in the wife's shoes and judge urself,wat wld d verdict be?y do u want to be a 2nd wife at 20,wen u cn be somone's world?i feel 4u sha??cos u r just digging ur own grave.besides i dont tink love has anytin to do wit it,i tink its d money.and besides are u d cause of her barreness?i dont tink u r,and if u r nt wat eva it is could also affect u.u talked about d first wife being a muslim and i take it u r a christian?r u truly a christian?cos if u r,i dnt tink dis question would ever come up!!!!a christian is someone who acts like Christ,so wat would Jesus Christ do?as in u want to go into polygamy wit eyes wide open?abeg go and luk 4 ur own o.u neva even start life o!!!!dts my own candid opinion sha,it might be a bit harsh bt u need to do a reality check on urself!!!!

mschew,c question o!!!!abeg 4 u 2 av gone this far witout anybody's opinion means u dnt need any help now.r ur parents in support?d wife is a muslim and so what????ryt now i tink i would pick a muslim over u again and again,cos u give christianity a bad name.didnt the 40yrs old man know about her religion before marrying her??ur mind is made up,so do wat pleases u and please dnt 4get to update us wen u start enjoying the ''result"!!!!!!!

why is this couple childless and ls dat wny he wants to marry u.to be a baby making machine.pls discard this idea of 2nd wife thing and dont let anyone abuse ur innocence.u are still too young to be saddled with such responsibility.your paramount periority should be your education and future career.leave this man and wife to seek God's face and in due time HE will bless them with the fruit of the womb.takia.

You are in love with a 41years old man....ok...lets even give you the benefit of doubt and go by the saying 'we dont choose who we fall in love with'...but my dear, he is married! what were u thinking going out with a married man in the first place? and @ 20years?
Put yourself in the wife's shoes, what would you do? Is her inability to conceive solely her fault or that of her husband? what is the assurance that if you marry the man you would bear children as well?

And to be candid, its unfair of you bringing religion into this issue.
You are only young once, this is not the time to gamble with your life. If you make such mistake, you'll be paying back with the rest of your life....

This is your moment of truth dear.