IS HE CALLING IT A QUIT??

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Am Funmilayo by name,hv been in a relationship b4 which lasted for almost five years but later went down d sour way,abt some mnths later,i met dis guy on nanaija and he ask for a relationship but i declined and i told him dat we can only be friends,he agreed wit me bt after 1mnth plus,he ask me again but before i gv him a definite answer,we hv already talked abt our past life n relationship.he told me he wanted some1 to marry and i told him d same dat am not getting any younger again,so i dnt need a boy/gurlfrd thing.we started dating while he stays in Abuja and i based in Lagos.We got to meet ourself when he came to Lagos.so he invited me over to abuja.Along the line he told me alot of thing and the most shocking one was dat,his assumed parents wanted him to marry a family's friend daughter,but he told me he will neva do dat,dat i was d one he wanted to marry,though i wasnt happy but i had no option than to play along,recently we were discussing and he said he wanted to get married dis year n dat he will like to meet my parents but wat troubles me most is dat,he's yet to fulfill his promises he pledged to me and he's always postponing to knw my parents.not quite long ago,we had an argument cos he told me he wanted to come and meet my parents two weeks ago b4 my dad travelled by to d states but since he has not come.Last week,i confronted and ask when he will be coming but he neva gv a good ans telling me''its ma secret'',so i was annoyed and i told him dat if he's nt coming dis weekend has he promised dat he shouldnt bother coming again,imagine wat he said''i really see more than yu fink, i am travelling to lag on sunday........but honestly i dnt think we can be together with this yr temper.......funmi i am serious, dats the only problem i am having with yu.....though yu tried concealing it but i saw it tru yu.........as yu said i will never come again.......i will change ma mind. infact i am going upstairs to cancel ma leave nw'' and the one dat makes me mad most was ''he said i shouldnt bother calling him again''.
My question nw is:Is calling it a quit or maybe he has been looking for an excuse b4 he later found one or is it possible for one claims he love yu after he knew everything abt yu and dat he knwns wat yu hv been thru in life or is he afraid of commitment or he want to marry the girl he was asked to marry?.
Please am confused and i need your advice urgently so as to knw wat to do.Thanks.

asked about 2 years ago by Funmilayo Adewale - 38
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Je ne comprends pas que vous!!!

answered about 2 years ago by Sweetchild - 109
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english pls!!!!

- meeboni added about 2 years ago

u re a girl and one thing we re gifted with is intuition. u dont need a soothsayer to read the writhings on d wall. if a guy wants a girl he chases her with everytin he has. if he really wants to meet ur parents he wuld have done so since.open ur eyes girl and read between the lines.

answered about 2 years ago by tatafoo - 152
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i agree with this, please take heart, he is gone and gone for good, blv me.

- PRECIOUS JOHN added about 2 years ago

Infact, He has already called it 'a quit'.. Sorry girl, move on!

answered about 2 years ago by Voice of Reason - 127
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hi Funmi, pity you had to go thru this kind of hell again but my piece of advice to you would be to reevaluate yourself;
- have you been nagging him on his promise to meet your folks
- do you have a temper (suppressed or otherwise)
- you were out of a sour relationship and jumped right into another one and you might be taking out the misgivings of that past into your present relationship
- how long has this present relationship been on for

the above might help throw some light into where you have erred.
Women love with our heart while guys use their head. they analyse, dissect and decide based on a number of factors who they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
Give him time and space, if you guys were meant to be, he would come back, if not, you need to move on.

answered about 2 years ago by meeboni - 822
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meeboni,u'v said it all.Miss Funmi,pls jst do as meeboni av said,'GIVE HIM SPACE ND TYM'.Gud luck.

- idowu jimoh added about 2 years ago

miss funmi. really sorry for that. but i just want to tell you that he has already called it a quit. he is looking for a way to tell you but he is not saying it. he has being waiting for you to tell me him not to come before he reacted. i also had the same experience that happened 2weeks ago, till now he didnt call me. i would advice you to move on with your life and also above all, talk to GOD who is the althur and the finisher of our faith.

answered about 2 years ago by joy - 24
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Hi funmi, so sory dat u ve to undergo such process. My piece of advice to u is dat,u shd take time to evaluate urself, if u are hot temperd, or a nagging type. Cos, i knw too well dat he has called it a quit. Dere is evry tendency dat u will go into anoda 1. So to avoid mistakes, search urself 4 amendment,cos no time.

answered about 2 years ago by Ogbuji Chidinma - 156
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To be candid...guys are different, like if i av issues wit my fiance, he says all sorts of shit,yell, nd tel me neva to call him again.....i wnt even say a word or call him, he will call me latest in 2 days..nd i wnt pik up nd do shakara well til am tired...wot am drivin at is dat he culd be dat kind of person ,may be not tho...just dnt call,giv him space lets see if he wuld call..- try nd make urself busy at all time,so u wnt bother thinkin let alone callin him

answered about 2 years ago by Kemi - 28
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Funmi dear, sorry its a pity u ve 2 go tghrh dat stress just so soon;but i want u 2 realise 1 thing in life, is it ups & down,what works 4 A might be 4 B;i dont think u shld give up on dat guy,it could be a trying period 4 both of u,put up whatever effort u can to see d relationship work so u wont ve to blame urself in future 4 not trying at all.afterall he mighty just be putting ur temper & reactions to test.

answered about 2 years ago by Adanma - 376
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Pray 2 God abt it. it is better u break up now than wen u ar married. He might want to use that as an avenue to leave u.

answered about 2 years ago by Olaiya Bukola - 33
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Please my dear YOU NEED TO CALL IT QUITS!!!!!!!!! As a woman / girl you must have dignity and show it. A man will look for his wife and follow through if he is willing.... You can not push a guy to start marriage proceedings, etc etc. Move on. And in your next relationship, show some reservation, if a man says he will marry you, fine but do not over push.......................................... you must balance these things somehow. As for this guy, its his loss, not yours and you must believe that.

answered about 2 years ago by nkem - 93
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Girl, the did has been done, that has passed, let's talk about the future. 1. you have to work on yourself especially your weaknesses. 2. don't go into any long relationship any more, the highest you can court could be six month. make friend but dont enter into a r/ship that will last for years. 3. pray fervently for your man, pray that the next man that proposes to you will be your husband. infact, this is the best thing to do right now. God bless you

answered about 2 years ago by Blessing usoro - 224
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Pls sincerely pour your heart to God. He can show you the way. candidly, ignore him and move on in life prayerfully. If he's your he will come to look for you.

answered about 2 years ago by Oladimeji Kemi - 1,376
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And pls my dear, work on your temper, if it is true.

- Oladimeji Kemi added about 2 years ago

the guy in question is not the right man for u, try and put it behind yuo and forge ahead. the one that the lord ordained for u is still coming on ur way. take care

- iyabode added almost 2 years ago