Should i Marry Her?
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My Ex girlfriend broke up with me about 3 years becos a born again broda proposed marriage to her. i just graduated then and i had no job, but today i am work as banker and am doing pretty well. she is 25 now and she feels terrible as she couldnt continue the relationship with the other guy as she claims they are not making headway...rite now am 29 and i want to settle down b4 30. My question is, do she really love me or want to settle down out of despiration?
depends on if she left you for materialistic reasons..if so then she is not true to you...however if she left you because you did not seem committed, then perhaps you should think of re-kindling the relationship {so long as you still have feelings}.
The stereotype of marriage at 30 is unreasonable if you do not have enought time to get to know the new her. people change and what you think you knew, might not hold anymore.
take time to see how the relationship goes..if it is meant to be, then it will happen. Never rush into marriage. There is no excuse for ignorance, you deserve the best, so don't settle for second best, and if you are certainly sure she is the best thing to happen to you..then go for it mate!..if not, then I propose you don't get involved before it gets too complicated.
My brother, what if you marry before 30 and get frustrated at 31? God forbid. I do not have issues with your ex-and-wanting-to-come-back girlfriend. What bothers me is the target you have set for something you can control neither the occurrence of it nor how it feels thereafter.
I think you should please cool down as it is not a wedding that's important but married life in itself, the wedding is just a 3-day ceremony at most, but thereafter is a lifetime of ups and downs, of excitement and otherwise that you need good company to be able to enjoy, the challenges of which you need the correct company to be able to face and crush.
As for the ex-girlfriend wanting to come back, I advise you tread softly and not jump back into what you were earlier thrown out of, you need to be perfectly sure she's not making you a spare tyre, one she can always take when she's gone out to get her hands burnt. Ultimately, please ask God and ensure you hear Him tell you in the way you've learnt to hear Him who exactly is the woman He's made from you and for you. If it happens to be the comeback kid, so be it, if someone else please let her know subtly and support her to go find her own man so that at the end everyone's happy.
My lil cent.
Dont rush in, so that you dont rush out later in life.
Dont rush in, so that you dont rush out later in life.
Commit your ways into God's hands, lean not on your own understanding.
Let Him give you His best. This lady may not have true love for you, it may only be bcos you are now okay that she wants to come back. Pls be wise!
Pray and ask God to direct you because we are talking about a life commitment. If she is really serious about coming back to you and u still have feelings for her,i'll advice u take her back. But take it slowly and be sure of her commitment this time around.Cheers!
To me a lady dat can not stand a test of time is not worth d trouble.i m not sure dat lady really love u,pray to God for a better direction,marriage is no a game of ludo.
It is so glaring dat if wat hapened den repeat itself she wil eventualy dump u 4 another guy,she's not ur equal guy,luk else where.av u heard about thunderbolt?...a word 4 a wise is enof.
Seek God's face for a better tomorrow. Cus is not about getting married is staying married so pls be wise.
There is an adage that says d devil u know is better than the angel u don't know,dat may not have been the reason she left you,everyone would want 2 talk in favour of themselves,if u were not the cause of her leaving you then u think over n over again,but if u were the cause,just go back to her n try to amend things,if she left you for a born again brother,then u have 2 give your life to christ, if u hve not,also you two separated so that when you come back u'll get stronger.
IT IS SO CLEAR THAT THIS GIRL DOESN'T LOVE YOU. IF SOMEONE COULD LEAVE YOU WHEN YOU ARE A HUSTLER, SHE DOESN'T EVEN FEEL FOR YOU WHEN SHE DROPPED THE BOMBSHELL. IT IS PLAIN TO SEE THAT SHE NOW FEELS YOU ARE OKAY AND CAN MAKE SOMETHING OUT OF YOU THAT'S WHY SHE WANTS TO COME BACK. AS PER THE AGE LIMIT YOU ARE SETTING FOR YOURSELF, YOU CAN BE MARRIED AT ANYTIME WHAT YOU NEED IS A MARITAL BLISS. I WISH YOU WELL. BE WISE!
Beloved from your explanation the both of you were very young( 22 & 26) that must have been the major barrier, who knows the level of pressure on the girl from her family, it is therefore advice able to search your spirit properly since you are a bit ready now. nothing is wrong with marrying her if you both still love your self. marrying at 30 is not bad, one can always set a target/goal, a year is enough to conclude everything. after all some husband and wife have been living together for over 10years without fully knowing each others details. make sure you involve God in all you do okay?
i agree with what most people have written.she doesn't love u.please move on without her